tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-298994890407805379.post1269198580228387485..comments2010-06-25T10:21:38.197-04:00Comments on Pearls Of... Something: Is this normal?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-298994890407805379.post-86276027823264947062008-10-04T19:39:00.000-04:002008-10-04T19:39:00.000-04:00I think people sometimes say absolutely stupid thi...I think people sometimes say absolutely stupid things when what they really want to say is: that they hope you don't need to worry, and that they hope all will be well. <BR/><BR/>I hope you don't need to worry.<BR/>I hope that all will be well.Lorrie Veaseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05284186458837015052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-298994890407805379.post-18874990256656646592008-10-03T12:36:00.000-04:002008-10-03T12:36:00.000-04:00Have you ever read Carol Barnier's book, "How To G...Have you ever read Carol Barnier's book, "How To Get Your Kid Off The Refrigerator And On To Learning?" I also signed up to recieve her newsletter at Sizzlebop.com. She has some fantastic ideas for keeping the fidgets directed so they don't drive you around the bend.<BR/><BR/>I love your motto!Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17615575846268382329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-298994890407805379.post-89797999296861147492008-10-03T09:01:00.000-04:002008-10-03T09:01:00.000-04:00My thoughts on nature vs. nurture continue to get ...My thoughts on nature vs. nurture continue to get even more tangled up as time goes on, but I can say that the engineers don't surprise me in the least!<BR/><BR/>My favorite parents-of-aspies group is very vocal with their motto: When you've seen one kid with Asperger's, you've seen one kid with Asperger's. Knowing several up close and personal, I've noticed plenty of shared issues, but they all come out in unique ways for each child. Different, even among the different.<BR/><BR/>The one thing I can say about J is that he's making great strides in his ability to segue. While his "conversations" are still more like monologues, and his topics are the ones *he wants to talk about, he's starting to find ways to make it appear that he's staying on topic. Somehow, it almost always turns into sharing his life story.<BR/><BR/>"Shut up already" may get me nasty looks from other people, but I doubt they'd prefer to have their ears bleed. And my sanity is very important. What's left of it.<BR/><BR/>The spinning, hopping, and fidgeting is a whole other thing. Thank MomoGod for trampolines!<BR/><BR/>For the record, of all of the professionals we've seen and worked with, OT has been the most beneficial by FAR. If I didn't think there was a risk of having charges filed, I would travel the country to give every occupational therapist alive a great big kiss.PearlsOfSomethinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00556762942820471504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-298994890407805379.post-24170333680704215122008-10-01T17:38:00.000-04:002008-10-01T17:38:00.000-04:00Our oldest son is somewhere on the Autism Spectrum...Our oldest son is somewhere on the Autism Spectrum, but even knowing that, I still am not certain what Autism is and what it looks like. Chris always seemed normal to me. Ok, he was very speech delayed and he's quite clumsy (I believe the occupational therapists call it "fine and gross motor skill delays"). He doesn't make eye contact with people he's unfamiliar with and just plain ignores people he doesn't enjoy. But other than that... he looks normal to me. I'd love to meet more children with Asperger's Syndrome because I'm truly left wondering if strange parents raise strange children and there's nothing more disorderly afoot than that. Now the speech therapist my 4 year old is seeing is advocating sending him to a developmental specialist to make sure all is normal in his world. Speech delays are very common on both sides of our family (about 60% of children in the past 2 generations are speech delayed... about 60% of the adult males are engineers... interesting, no?). Other moms look at me funny if I mention the developmenntal delays and they kind of keep their own kids closer- almost like they're afraid it's catching. If I don't ever mention Chris has an ASD no parent ever makes mention that he's a bit quirkier than your average 6 old.I really had to laugh when I read about you telling your son to shut up though. We have been there multiple times already today. It's amazing how some children respond to indirect correction, "wow, look at that leaf. Aren't the fall colors pretty," and some kids change subject. Then there's my kid. I try all the polite, nice ways to change the subject and what we're left with is, "I don't want to talk about x anymore and no one else is interested anymore either. Please sit/stand/hop without speaking for 3 minutes while my mind rests."<BR/><BR/>Normal is a relative term.Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17615575846268382329noreply@blogger.com